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By Kathy Winkler and Randi Kreger Format: 8 1/2 by 11 booklet, 54 pages Publisher: Eggshells Press 2000 Item #: HFP
To write this book, Winkler and Kreger drew on the experiences of 250 parents to discover their concerns and address them. The booklet offers suggestions for parents of both minor children and those over 18. The contents include finding treatment, working with care providers, countering false accusations of abuse, handling crises, fostering independence, handling finances, protecting siblings, and maintaining hope.
Table of Contents (tentative)
Section 1: Love, Borderline Style: Kay And Doug's Story
Section 2: Recognizing BPD Traits in Your Child
The DSM-IV Definition The Gunderson Child DIB-R Support Group Parents' Experiences
The DSM-IV Definition
The Gunderson Child DIB-R
Support Group Parents' Experiences
Section 3: Letting Go of the Guilt: What Causes BPD?
Section 4: The Impact of BPD Behavior On You
Section 5: How to Raise a Borderline Child
Principle 1: Employ the Power of Validation Principle 2. Use Communication Tools that Ease Tension Principle 3: See Unconscious "Manipulation" for What it Really Is: Dependency Principle 4: Recognize The Link Between Unconscious "Manipulation" And Self-Esteem Principle 5: Recognize The Link Between Unconscious "Manipulation" And Loss of Reality Principle 6. Set Reasonable, Important Limits You Can Consistently Observe Principle 7. Stop Trying to Control Your Child With Using Methods That Don't Work Principal 8: Start Using Methods that Do Work When Your Child Does Not Observe Limits/Rules Parenting Tips That Dr. Spock Forgot (from the LAPB Support Group)
Principle 1: Employ the Power of Validation
Principle 2. Use Communication Tools that Ease Tension
Principle 3: See Unconscious "Manipulation" for What it Really Is: Dependency
Principle 4: Recognize The Link Between Unconscious "Manipulation" And Self-Esteem
Principle 5: Recognize The Link Between Unconscious "Manipulation" And Loss of Reality
Principle 6. Set Reasonable, Important Limits You Can Consistently Observe
Principle 7. Stop Trying to Control Your Child With Using Methods That Don't Work
Principal 8: Start Using Methods that Do Work When Your Child Does Not Observe
Limits/Rules
Parenting Tips That Dr. Spock Forgot (from the LAPB Support Group)
Section 5: Nurturing and Protecting Siblings
Section 6: Nurturing and Protecting Yourself
Section 7: Obtaining Satisfactory Outpatient Treatment
Getting a diagnosis Selecting a type of therapy What to expect from therapy Understanding the role of medications
Getting a diagnosis
Selecting a type of therapy
What to expect from therapy
Understanding the role of medications
Section 8: Evaluating and Monitoring Hospitals And Residential Treatment Centers
How to tell when outside care is necessary Hospitalization: keeping everyone safe during a crisis Residential treatment: caring enough to say "enough" Foster care: another alternative when families get "stuck"
How to tell when outside care is necessary
Hospitalization: keeping everyone safe during a crisis
Residential treatment: caring enough to say "enough"
Foster care: another alternative when families get "stuck"
Section 9: Putting Pressure On The School System
Section 10: Cutting Through the Red Tape: Getting The Most Out Of Health Insurance & Government Programs
Section 11: Helping Your Adult Child Survive Outside The Family
Your child's employment Estate planning Letting go and avoiding codependence Cementing relationships with grandchildren
Your child's employment
Estate planning
Letting go and avoiding codependence
Cementing relationships with grandchildren
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