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Resources by Power Tools (Skills Training) From The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

Black, J., and G. Enns, Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 1572241071 ISBN-13: 978-1572241077



Katherine, A., Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin  (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1991).  
ISBN-10: 1568380305 ISBN-13: 978-1568380308



Beattie, M., Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, 2nd ed.  (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1992).  
ISBN-10: 0894864025 ISBN-13: 978-0894864025



Evans, P., Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You  (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002.).  
ISBN-10: 158062569X ISBN-13: 978-1580625692



Pryor, K., Don’t Shoot the Dog! The New Art of Teaching and Training, rev. ed.  (New York: Bantam Books, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 0553380397 ISBN-13: 978-0553380392



Savage, E., Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 0595255752 ISBN-13: 978-0595255757



Forward, S., with D. Frazier, Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You  (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 0060928972 ISBN-13: 978-0060928971



Jeffers, S., Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway  (New York: Ballantine, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 0345487427 ISBN-13: 978-0345487421



Kabat-Zinn, J., Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness  (Delta: 1990).  
ISBN-10: 0385303122 ISBN-13: 978-0385303125



Tartell, G., and T. Kavanau, Get Fit in Bed: Tone Your Body and Calm Your Mind from the Comfort of Your Bed  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2006).  
ISBN-10: 0963878433 ISBN-13: 978-0963878434



Berg, B. C., How to Escape the No-Win Trap  (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0071423613 ISBN-13: 978-0071423618



Carnegie, D., How to Stop Worrying and Start Living  (New York: Pocket Books, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0671035975 ISBN-13: 978-0671035976



Lundberg, G. B., and J. S. Lundberg, I Don’t Have to Make Everything All Better  (New York: Viking, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 0140286438 ISBN-13: 978-0140286434



Neuharth, D., If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World  (New York: Cliff Street Books, 1998).  
ISBN-10: 0060929324 ISBN-13: 978-0060929329



Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962



Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962



Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962



Lerner, R., Living in the Comfort Zone: The Gift of Boundaries in Relationships  (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1995).  
ISBN-10: 1558743707 ISBN-13: 978-1558743700



Brown, E. B., Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People  (Grand Rapids, MI: Fleming H. Revell, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 080073288X ISBN-13: 978-0800732882



Engel, B., Loving Him Without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself  (New York: John Wiley, 2000).  
ISBN-10: 0471409790 ISBN-13: 978-0471409793



McKay, M., and D. Harp, Neural Path Therapy: How to Change Your Brain’s Response to Anger, Fear, Pain, and Desire  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2005).  
ISBN-10: 1572244267 ISBN-13: 978-1572244269



Aguirre, B. A., Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has Borderline Personality Disorder  (Beverly, MA: Fair Winds Press, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1592332870 ISBN-13: 978-1592332878



Young, J. E., and J. S. Klosko, Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior . . . and Feel Great Again  (New York: Plume, 1993).  
ISBN-10: 0452272041 ISBN-13: 978-0452272040



Young, J. E., and J. S. Klosko, Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior . . . and Feel Great Again  (New York: Plume, 1993).  
ISBN-10: 0452272041 ISBN-13: 978-0452272040



Hamilton, M., Serenity to Go: Calming Techniques for Your Hectic Life  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2001).  
ISBN-10: 1572242353 ISBN-13: 978-1572242357



Stenack, R. J., Stop Controlling Me! What to Do When Someone You Love Has Too Much Power Over You  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2001).  
ISBN-10: 1572242469 ISBN-13: 978-1572242463



Wainwright, G. R., Teach Yourself Body Language  (Chicago: McGraw-Hill, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0071419721 ISBN-13: 978-0071419727



Lerner, H., The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships  (New York: Perennial Currents, 2005).  
ISBN-10: 006074104X ISBN-13: 978-0060741044



Engel, B., The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself  (New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1990).  
ISBN-10: 0449906442 ISBN-13: 978-0449906446



Engel, B., The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing  (Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, 2002).  
ISBN-10: 0471454036 ISBN-13: 978-0471454038



Miller, A., The Enabler: When Helping Hurts the Ones You Love  (Tucson, AZ: Wheatmark, 2008).  
ISBN-10: 1587360675 ISBN-13: 978-1587360671



Engel, B., The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome: What to Do If Someone in Your Life Has a Dual Personality—or If You Do  (Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 0470042249 ISBN-13: 978-0470042243



Heitler, S., and Hirsch, A., The Power of Two Workbook  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2003).  
ISBN-10: 1572243341 ISBN-13: 978-1572243347



Heitler, S., and Hirsch, A., The Power of Two Workbook  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2003).  
ISBN-10: 1572243341 ISBN-13: 978-1572243347



Heitler, S., and Singer, P., The Power of Two: Secrets of a Strong and Loving Marriage  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 1572240598 ISBN-13: 978-1572240599



Sutherland, A., What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers  (New York: Random House, 2008).  
ISBN-10: 1400066581 ISBN-13: B002UXS0PM




Power Tool 1: Take Good Care of Yourself

Kabat-Zinn, J., Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness  (Delta: 1990).  
ISBN-10: 0385303122 ISBN-13: 978-0385303125


Tartell, G., and T. Kavanau, Get Fit in Bed: Tone Your Body and Calm Your Mind from the Comfort of Your Bed  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2006).  
ISBN-10: 0963878433 ISBN-13: 978-0963878434


Carnegie, D., How to Stop Worrying and Start Living  (New York: Pocket Books, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0671035975 ISBN-13: 978-0671035976


McKay, M., and D. Harp, Neural Path Therapy: How to Change Your Brain’s Response to Anger, Fear, Pain, and Desire  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2005).  
ISBN-10: 1572244267 ISBN-13: 978-1572244269


Hamilton, M., Serenity to Go: Calming Techniques for Your Hectic Life  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2001).  
ISBN-10: 1572242353 ISBN-13: 978-1572242357



Power Tool 2: Uncover What Keeps You Feeling Stuck

Black, J., and G. Enns, Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 1572241071 ISBN-13: 978-1572241077


Beattie, M., Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, 2nd ed.  (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1992).  
ISBN-10: 0894864025 ISBN-13: 978-0894864025


Evans, P., Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You  (Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2002.).  
ISBN-10: 158062569X ISBN-13: 978-1580625692


Savage, E., Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 0595255752 ISBN-13: 978-0595255757


Forward, S., with D. Frazier, Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You  (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 0060928972 ISBN-13: 978-0060928971


Jeffers, S., Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway  (New York: Ballantine, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 0345487427 ISBN-13: 978-0345487421


Berg, B. C., How to Escape the No-Win Trap  (New York: McGraw-Hill, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0071423613 ISBN-13: 978-0071423618


Neuharth, D., If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World  (New York: Cliff Street Books, 1998).  
ISBN-10: 0060929324 ISBN-13: 978-0060929329


Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962


Brown, E. B., Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People  (Grand Rapids, MI: Fleming H. Revell, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 080073288X ISBN-13: 978-0800732882


Engel, B., Loving Him Without Losing You: How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself  (New York: John Wiley, 2000).  
ISBN-10: 0471409790 ISBN-13: 978-0471409793


Young, J. E., and J. S. Klosko, Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior . . . and Feel Great Again  (New York: Plume, 1993).  
ISBN-10: 0452272041 ISBN-13: 978-0452272040


Young, J. E., and J. S. Klosko, Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior . . . and Feel Great Again  (New York: Plume, 1993).  
ISBN-10: 0452272041 ISBN-13: 978-0452272040


Stenack, R. J., Stop Controlling Me! What to Do When Someone You Love Has Too Much Power Over You  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2001).  
ISBN-10: 1572242469 ISBN-13: 978-1572242463


Lerner, H., The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships  (New York: Perennial Currents, 2005).  
ISBN-10: 006074104X ISBN-13: 978-0060741044


Engel, B., The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself  (New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1990).  
ISBN-10: 0449906442 ISBN-13: 978-0449906446


Engel, B., The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing  (Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, 2002).  
ISBN-10: 0471454036 ISBN-13: 978-0471454038


Miller, A., The Enabler: When Helping Hurts the Ones You Love  (Tucson, AZ: Wheatmark, 2008).  
ISBN-10: 1587360675 ISBN-13: 978-1587360671



Power Tool 3: Communicate to Be Heard

Lundberg, G. B., and J. S. Lundberg, I Don’t Have to Make Everything All Better  (New York: Viking, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 0140286438 ISBN-13: 978-0140286434


Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962


Wainwright, G. R., Teach Yourself Body Language  (Chicago: McGraw-Hill, 2004).  
ISBN-10: 0071419721 ISBN-13: 978-0071419727


Heitler, S., and Hirsch, A., The Power of Two Workbook  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2003).  
ISBN-10: 1572243341 ISBN-13: 978-1572243347


Heitler, S., and Hirsch, A., The Power of Two Workbook  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2003).  
ISBN-10: 1572243341 ISBN-13: 978-1572243347


Heitler, S., and Singer, P., The Power of Two: Secrets of a Strong and Loving Marriage  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1997).  
ISBN-10: 1572240598 ISBN-13: 978-1572240599



Power Tool 4: Set Limits with Love

Katherine, A., Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin  (Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1991).  
ISBN-10: 1568380305 ISBN-13: 978-1568380308


Klatte, B., and K. Thompson, It’s So Hard to Love You: Staying Sane When Your Loved One Is Manipulative, Needy, Dishonest, or Addicted  (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1572244968 ISBN-13: 978-1572244962


Lerner, R., Living in the Comfort Zone: The Gift of Boundaries in Relationships  (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1995).  
ISBN-10: 1558743707 ISBN-13: 978-1558743700


Engel, B., The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome: What to Do If Someone in Your Life Has a Dual Personality—or If You Do  (Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 0470042249 ISBN-13: 978-0470042243



Power Tool 5: Reinforce the Right Behavior

Pryor, K., Don’t Shoot the Dog! The New Art of Teaching and Training, rev. ed.  (New York: Bantam Books, 1999).  
ISBN-10: 0553380397 ISBN-13: 978-0553380392


Aguirre, B. A., Personality Disorder in Adolescents: A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent Has Borderline Personality Disorder  (Beverly, MA: Fair Winds Press, 2007).  
ISBN-10: 1592332870 ISBN-13: 978-1592332878


Sutherland, A., What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage: Lessons for People from Animals and Their Trainers  (New York: Random House, 2008).  
ISBN-10: 1400066581 ISBN-13: B002UXS0PM


 
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