Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of people who have a family member with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) to an international forefront through her best-selling books, informative website, and popular online family support community Welcome to Oz.
Is Your Adult Child Bullying You?
This is from the web page http://bulliesbegone.com/toxic-adult-children/
How to Stop Bullying by Toxic Adult Children
These adult bullies blame you for everything in their past and for all their problems now.
A seemingly good visit always turns ugly – they blow up and verbally or physically attack you. Sometimes they're nice in public and only attack you in private.
They won't let you see your grandchildren unless you give them what they want. They want to control you.
Sometimes, your child has married a controlling bully who hates you or wants you to bribe them.
They trigger your guilt for every little parenting mistake. You keep trying to prove that your intent and behavior was caring, but you can't prove it to them. They always twist everything.
You've tried to do everything they want. You've accepted all the blame. You've given them all you have. No matter what you do, you're wrong. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
You'll never stop their attacks by begging, bribery, appeasement or the Golden Rule.
Now is the moment of truth for you. Now is when you choose how to be a better parent to an adult predator you had hoped would love you. Stop living with wishful thinking and magical fantasies. Do what your children need you to do in order to help them finally grow up responsibly and respectfully.
The best way to stop being controlled and bullied by toxic adult children is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching.
Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to set boundaries effectively.
Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create a bully-free life despite your feelings
The keys to successfully elimate bullying are the 3 Rs:
* Have resolve.
* Be resilient.
* Act relentlessly.
Those qualities are the engine we all need.
If we don't have these qualities, we can't make use of any help that's offered. We give in, we give up. Even if we have a great plan, we don't have the will and grit to carry it out successfully. Failure is guaranteed.
If we have these qualities, we grab onto help that's offered. We keep trying. We create surprises. We can get lucky. We can attract allies. We can succeed against negativity, bullies and abuse. We can succeed in life.
Other resources: http://adultchildrenbullying.blogspot.com/
Here is a video by Ben about bullying of adult children:
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