SPLITTING:  Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist

Splitting was really nurturing and has a lot of practical information. It pulls you in with its warm approach that keeps you reading. I learned a lot from this approach about knowing when to confront and when to back off.

Learning to be assertive and not aggressive was a win-win situation in my case, because emotionally I could detach and not get sucked in. My husband was so confident that he would get the house (which I had paid for), that he was shocked when I asserted myself and obtained court orders for him to be removed. This assertive approach to my verbally aggressive husband led to him backing off and we reached a settlement soon after that.